A man has admitted that he wants to divorce his wife after she was in a car accident that left her needing her leg amputated - and let's just say the internet isn't letting him get away with it.
Writing to Daily Mail's 'Dear Jane' column, the anonymous user who goes by the alias 'Lusting for Lust' wrote to the best-selling author in the hopes that she would offer him some advice on his situation.
"A few years ago, my wife was in a terrible car accident that left her with horrible injuries – and ultimately led to her leg being amputated," he started.
"In the months and years after the accident, she worked so hard on her recovery. She got a prosthetic leg and did physical therapy... needless to say, it's been a rough few years for all of us, especially for her, but she's been pretty positive about her future and her 'new normal' as she calls it."
He then went on to state that while that was all good and well, his relationship with her had "completely changed."
"I went from concerned husband to full-time carer and now it feels almost like we're just roommates?" he continued in his message. "She is still struggling to sleep so she has her own room downstairs, while I'm still in what was our bedroom upstairs. I work at an office every day and by the time I get home, she's usually so exhausted that she goes to bed an hour or so after I walk in the door."
The man then detailed the decline in their intimacy, revealing that the couple "haven't had sex since the accident happened three years ago."
"I can't even remember the last time we kissed properly," he said. "It feels like any passion in our relationship died out the moment she got into the accident. Saying 'I love you' just feels like part of the routine now rather than being filled with any meaning."
Despite his reservations, he emphasized that he still loves his wife but he'd be happier if he was just allowed to end the marriage and move on.
"Would I be the worst person in the world if I divorced her?" he concluded.
Jane's response offered a wider perspective on the situation and urged the man to be open and honest with his wife rather than doing something drastic and cruel.
"You would only be the worst person in the world if you divorced her and hadn't sat her down, preferably with a therapist or counselor, and had some meaningful conversations about your marriage and what you both want out of your future," she wrote in a response.
Taking some emphasis off of the accident, the column writer also shifted the blame to "how much you are projecting your feelings onto your wife."
"...I imagine most of her energy is going into her healing and dealing with her new life," she wrote back. "That said, I know a couple of women who have lost limbs in accidents, and who have also gone on to have impressive and amazing lives... So again, I wonder how much you might be projecting your own guilt onto the situation, in order to somehow mitigate your reasons for leaving."
She concluded the post with some raw home truths stating: "The grass is not greener on the other side. It's greener where you water it, and watering requires commitment, communication, and time. Committing to figuring out your future, with your wife as an equal partner, seems to be the very least you can do."
The response from readers appeared to be a lot harsher, with many pointing out the "selfish" nature of the man.
"What a selfish swine," one user wrote. "Perhaps your wife is feeling less attractive to you now and you have done nothing to reassure her. My ex treated me appallingly when I broke my ankle a few years ago, that and his other selfish ways made me pack up and leave. Perhaps its your wife who should throw you out."
"Not sure it was the leg that destroyed your sex life, you heartless sod!" another added.
A third also branded the man as "seflish" writing: "Looking for an 'out' before speaking to your wife. She deserves a better life than with a selfish creature like you."
One also commented: "She's lost her leg and all he can think about is himself and his sex life," while someone else added: "Can't help but think his wife would stick by him if the tables were turned. Selfish."
What do you think?
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